What Goes in Personal Wishes

Created by IronClad Family Support, Modified on Tue, Jul 28 at 11:14 AM by IronClad Family Support


Everything else in your vault is about what you have and what to do with it. This is the part that's simply you — the things you'd want said, to the people you'd want to say them to. It's the part families keep, long after the paperwork is settled.

One subcategory lives here: Personal messages. Add a separate message for each person, or each occasion.

New to how the forms work? Start with Understanding the Forms.

Personal messages

  • Message title (required)
  • For which person
  • Deliver when — on my passing, on a specific date, or immediately to vault
  • Note — the message itself
The “deliver when” field is what makes this powerful: a message doesn't have to arrive all at once. Set one to reach your daughter on her twenty-fifth birthday. Another to arrive on a wedding day you might not be there for. Something you'd want said that's hard to say now, set to deliver on your passing. Timing turns a note into a moment — a voice arriving exactly when someone needs to hear it.

Ideas for what to leave

People sometimes freeze at the blank note field. A few of the things others have left:

  • A letter to each child, to be opened on a milestone birthday
  • The story of how you and your partner met, in your own words
  • Passwords to the family photo accounts, and which pictures matter and why
  • Advice you'd give if you could be there — for a wedding, a first home, a hard year
  • Simply I'm proud of you, addressed to the person who'll most need to hear it

None of it has to be polished. The people receiving these won't be grading the writing. They'll be grateful the words exist at all.


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